Good-bye is mandatory in life. You’ve to say goodbye to a place, things, or a person at some moment in your life. And the reason could be anything. Maybe because of the cycle of life and death, maybe because of a break-up, new job opportunity, transfer, moving to another place, etc etc. It’s tough not to remember your loved ones. But you know that we can’t hold on forever. So here are some philosophical ideas you can try when you miss someone.
Accept Impermanence
We know that nothing is permanent in this life. But we don’t accept it. And when we don’t accept it we get hurt.
When we get attached to someone. We get completely into them. Not being aware of the fact that we can get separate anytime. Because as I said nothing is permanent. But after we lose them or get separated, we feel sad. Yes, it hurts a lot but this is important to be aware of the fact that no one is permanent.
When we’re in some happy moment, we get attached to that time. We stick to that moment and when that moment passed away we get sad and upset over that. Because we don’t accept it’s permanence.
People, places, things, and everything changes. Some because of choice and some because of circumstances. There are things in this universe that we can’t control. But you know it’s important. Change is important to learn, to move on in life.
Remember you can’t control everything
There are some things which we can control but there are many things which we can not control. You’ve to learn the difference between them. You’ve to accept this fact.
We can’t stop the cycle of life and death. We can’t control someone else. Accept the fact that we can’t let them stop for us if they want to go.
You’re responsible for you understand that. They’ll do whatever they want to do but you should do what you need to do at that time. Remember the fact that you can’t control everything and everyone. Once you’ll remember this you’ll suffer less.
When we miss someone, especially after break up. society made us think that we don’t deserve this. That person should be with us. But we need to remember one thing, we don’t own people. They have got the right to do anything they want to. They don’t owe anything to us. Keep this in your mind.
People come and go and some stick to us in the process and some just fade away with time. They are just passengers. Don’t stretch your urge for them. Keep in your mind they are not permanent and they accept the fact that you can’t control everything when you miss someone.
Settle everything free
Yes, settle everything free. Whenever something or someone comes in your life. Accept them as they are. Don’t hinder your or their growth. Settle them free.
Assume you got some people in your life. They get close to you. Now they are doing things for you. Supporting you in every manner, making you feel good. You get attached to them eventually.
Now they are moving from your place because there might be some problems with your people or they’re getting a better job opportunity. When they’re gone you feel disappointed, sad. You feel hurt.
Or another case someone is suffering from a very painful illness. And that illness cannot be cured. They die. And now you’re missing them, feeling stuck in life.
But honestly think one thing when you miss someone when you miss them.
What is good for them?
They should move away from you because they’re having better opportunities in life. Or in the second situation, they’re free from their sufferings. So it’s good for them definitely. You should take them as passengers in your life.
Focus on the present.
When you miss someone try to be in the present movement. This is the most effective way to get out of the hurt causing emotions.
You can’t control the past or future. The one thing you can control is the present moment. So be there. There’s nothing wrong with remembering someone or missing the past. But when we get deeply in that emotion and that emotion started empowering our present moment that’s definitely not worth and resulted in wasted opportunities.
The past is gone and never going to come back. Ruining your present moment because of the past is completely wrong. So try to be in the present moment as much as you can.
Do check out “How to be in present”
When you miss someone try to be in the present moment. If love was mutual think that the person wanted best for you. So do your best to achieve the best in the present.
It is easier said than done. But remember one thing nothing is impossible.
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